Befriending thyself

Namaskar ri pa!!!

my warm and spicy wishes to all of you this chill monsoon....!

Solitude is priceless and most precious thing in the world only if you know how to use it.

Even the strongest people fear to be alone or get scared to face themselves and yell  being alone is horrible.

People who are very good at managing others will also fail to manage themselves sometimes. Recently one of the successful businessman committed suicide in Karnataka who had managed thousands of workers once.

What makes them take such decisions?

Is it they become feeble all at once or we try to justify it as circumstances makes so.
Well I am not here to talk all those, but can say a person however and whatever times if maintains poise can overcome and emerge a new person without any doubt.

You might be wondering !!!!

Prologue bahut hogaya 😇..

Coming to the point.

Let me elaborate this with an example,
I have purchased an new electronic gadget with latest features what should be the first thing I should have been doing?

I need to understand the usage by referring manual or get it by one of my friends.
So that I can be able to use it Infallible.

Likewise our body is a fine biological /mechanical machine(anything you want to refer).
When I say body is a machine, it too should be having  an instruction sets for being used right?

How many of us have ever thought /taught of understanding these instructions?? 

Never I guess neither we show interest nor someone teach exactly in this regard, isn't it??

This is why most of the time people cry on their miseries and call it a fate!!! 

When we cannot understand how we can utilise this body for achieving higher feats we cannot blame it.

It's said, 

Atmenah atmaanhu bandhu atmenah ritoratmaha.

Which means,
 man is a friend or an enemy to himself.

Hence, we should learn what comprise a human.

Human being is mainly looked in three dimensions. 

1.Body.
2.Mind.
3.Soul.

Body- It is what we look, it has physical form and requires energy to perform different works accordingly. It is made up of different organs and each assigned to do specific work. Let's take an example of driverless cars which consists of various devices making it perform as a whole.

Mind- It is a core and obviously most essential part of human.Which is intangible in nature.
It's like google's alexa which guides the car to move in decorous manner.

Soul- It can be the cumulative of person's body and mind which decides nature of his/her as a whole.

Let's stress more on the mind as it is the kernel of human being and by far plays vital role in shaping a personality.

The one who conquers himself, conquers the world .

Conquering oneself here means having  steadfastness and maintaining poise in any situation or place.Which is next to impossible if not done in a proper and disciplined manner
Why it is so much hard to control own self?
Why mind is so restless ?
What can make it calm?
What steps should one follow to make it perfect?

Let's try to understand mind it's perceptions and the way how it functions.

Mind usually mesmerizes or fools oneself and is responsible for getting either good or bad thoughts
It often happens we get into its trap and become a folly in hands of it.
This will repeat thousands of times and we feel misery and lastly give up of trying to change and or losing faith on ourselves.
So in order to avoid such traps of mind we shall follow following steps at least to minimise or completely come out of this trap.

The mind does traps in following way.

1.Selection/Deletion.
2.Distortion.
3.Generalisation.
4.Programming.

Selection/Deletion-Here the mind selects or deletes only those things which pleases it and does not delve to understand the things which it perceives in better way because as it demands for its time and energy.

Distortion-This is the second trap played by mind where it  compares the things with previously gained knowledge(half gained because of trap 1) and tries to prove .
Which actually is not correct and creates an illusion that whatever he/she know is ultimatum , there by evading chance to cross verify or learn.

Generalisation-This trap tries to generalise everything irrespective of the conditions or facts.
Ex-considering all male to be cruel or all women to be innocent.

Programming- This trap actually is crucial and deciding what a person will be transformed. From above three traps whatever a person thinks will be converted into program and will be stored in his mind hence a man becomes what his mind has made him to be.

This is how mind plays folly on man and make him slave of it.

If generations knew about it and had tried to rectify by this time each human being would have been transformed into God.
But because of his ignorance and negligence people still suffer with agony

By this time you might have realised YES this has happened to me!!!! Don't you!!!!!
It has happened to each of us.. 

And you are now looking after remedies for it right!!!! 

Let us understand how can we counter attack the trap played by mind and make it the slave.

The following steps helps us to avoid being trapped.
1.Observation.
2.Enquiry/questioning
3.Hypothesis
4.Experiment.

Observation-We use various sense organs to give input to our mind like seeing, hearing etc. At this step we require to filter the things we see or hear .
We need to hold a second and then decide whether or not it should enter your brain.
Mahatma Gandhiji had rightly illustrated this using 3 monkeys.

Enquiry-Anything you observe has to put to question . We shouldn't accept any information without questioning or using rationality.

Hypothesis-Once enquiry is done we should see that it suits with the suitable theory or not that is it should be following protocols of right or wrong . Here the assumptions which are made should be nearer to reality. This step leads to experiment.

Experiment- In this step we make use of science and try to find the reliability of such thoughts. Here the thought is been put on test again and again to come to a conclusion. 

Hence in this way person can save himself from being trapped.

And to do all these mind has to be in mediocre state to take decisions on discretion. How do we start at basic level to calm our mind then?
Following are very simple steps to bring your mind into control. 

1.Seeing only good things.
2.Surrounded amidst good pious and virtuous people.
3.Visiting the places with positive vibes.
4.Appreciating oneself for what little he is.
5.Becoming universal person and not bigot.

Remember dear friends it's you who is going to make it happen.
Trust yourself be true to yourself the whole world shall lie at your feet if you are true and virtuous.

Na ruthe shantrasya sakkhyaya deva.

Which means God helps only those who helps themselves.

Let you be blessed by triyoshatvas.

Punch time-The friendship which is ever  true is between you and you only, rest depends on needs and advantages.